What can I do to make the transition to childcare easier for all of us?
Childcare is a reality for many families. In-home day care, centre-based care, care provided by family or friends, occasional, part time, long day care or full time care are all variations on a theme.
And although the specifics can vary enormously, there are some universal truths when it comes to making the childcare adjustment for parents and their children.
Make informed decisions about your choice of childcare
- Do your research and ask other parents with young children why and what choices they made. Speak with your partner about what you both see as important for you and your child.
- Be positive about the benefits of childcare. No matter what the reasons, feeling negative about childcare will just make the process a chore.
- Follow your gut feelings if you have them. Many parents just get a โsenseโ of whatโs right from doing a childcare or in-home day care tour. Look at the interaction between the carer and the child/ren and if the children seem happy and well cared for. Gauge how welcome you feel and speak with the director and the carers.ย We make decisions not just with our head but our heart too.
- If your child is old enough, ask them what theyโd like. Talk with them about childcare, read books together and answer their questions honestly. Be mindful of your own emotions if youโre feeling anxious. Children are masters of picking up on their parentโs feelings.
- Include Government based sources of information in your research. These need to be non-biased and evidence based. Check here as well as here for more information.
Book Early
- Childcare spaces can be very limited, especially for babies and toddlers. You may want to put your childโs name down for several centres to boost your chances for preferred starting dates.
- Be prepared to forgo one or more booking fees for the sake of your own peace of mind.
- Ensure all required details are filled out on your paperwork and check theyโve been received. Delays and missed spots can happen because of small errors.
- Make sure you keep your details updated if the days/times you need for childcare change.
Take time to adjust
- Where possible, build up the time you and your child are apart and support the relationship building with their new caregiver. Be sensitive to your childโs responses to changes and expect some initial separation anxiety, for both of you.
- Keep open lines of communication between yourself and the carer. This is a really important way to ensure your childโs needs are being considered and the carer is feeling listened to.
- Ensure your contact details are always kept up to date and provide alternatives for times when you may be out of reach.
Prioritise about whatโs really important
- Safety, hygiene and wellness policies are non-negotiables when it comes to childcare. But location, cost, size and carer/child ratio are all factors which rate differently for individual families.
- Make a list of whatโs essential to you and what youโre willing to be more flexible about.
- Try not to compare your choices with other parents. Only you and your partner can know whatโs right for your own family.
Prepare to learn
- Be open to suggestions and input from other people whoโve been there and done that. Experienced parents can have excellent insights and points of view which are worth listening to.
- It can be really hard getting feedback from others about our children, especially if itโs not exactly positive. Itโs within a parentโs role description to love their children unconditionally, not their carers. So be open to constructive suggestions from your childโs carer and try not to be too defensive, especially if itโs offered in a reasonable way.
- Check the qualifications of your childโs carers. Expert carers take pride in their qualifications and training. Become familiar with the different levels of registration and accreditation required to care for children in a professional capacity.
- Know when to make alternative care plans. Childcare arrangements are not set in stone - there is always some flexibility and options to change if necessary. Itโs OK for you to change your mind if you and your child are just not happy with how their childcare is working out.
Be organised
- Have a designated bag for childcare and check it regularly. Youโd be surprised what can find its way home.
- Keep on rotation plenty of clothes, nappies, toiletries and other necessities which your child may need. Pack plenty of spares, especially during the toilet training months and summer when water play means lots of wet clothing.
- Get into the habit of packing the bag the night before. Avoid last minute chaos by creating routines which support you all getting out of the house on time.
Make home time different to day-care
- Although young children thrive on routine and predictability, donโt fall into the trap of thinking you need to replicate a typical childcare pattern. Children also learn from differences in caregiving โ it helps to build their resilience.
- Allow for different rules at home. Running a childcare centre is a business, domestic life is not. Children need to feel they can relax and give into their natural impulsiveness and relative freedom when theyโre home.
- Remember, your child may have one or more carers but no one can take your place. Really value your unique relationship with your child; no-one can replace you.
Five top tips for childcare
- Investigate what childcare rebates you may be eligible for.
- Invest in a really good hat for your child when theyโre at childcare. Caps, small brimmed hats and hats which are too small may tick the yes box for hat wearing but theyโre useless when it comes to sun protection. A wide brimmed hat which casts a shadow onto your childโs entire face is ideal.
- Donโt expect your childโs carer to look after them in exactly the same way as you do. There are bound to be differences, so decide on whatโs going well and communicate clearly whatโs not.
- Expect some changes in your childโs sleeping, eating and behaviour when they start childcare. All of these areas often reflect other changes (big and small) going on in a young childโs life.
- Give plenty of time (but not too much) for drop-offs. Taking their bag to the right spot, speaking with the carer, saying goodbye and making the break are all best managed in a calm way. Settle your child in as best you can and then confidently leave. Ring to check how they are if you want to.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Jane Barry has qualifications in general, paediatric, immunisation, midwifery and child health nursing. She holds a Bachelor Degree in Applied Science (Nursing) and has almost 30 years specialist experience in child health nursing. She is a member of a number of professionally affiliated organisations including AHPRA, The Australasian Medical Writerโs Association, Health Writer Hub and Australian College of Children and Young Peopleโs Nurses.
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