Having a baby on your own may not have been a choice you intentionally made. Separation, death, divorce or a brief sexual encounter can all result in becoming a single parent. Single Parenting is becoming more common. In the 2017 Australian Institute of Health and Welfare report, single-parent families numbered 949,000 – around 14% of all families. Of these 65% had dependents.
Most new parents could be forgiven for not prioritising sex after they’ve had their baby. Mothers particularly, can find the whole idea of getting up close and personal with their partner again almost inconceivable in the early days following birth. But there does (eventually) come a time when sex does resume in some version of its former glory. Exactly when is unique to every couple.
In generations past, we tended to think of fathers as the support act in parenting. Sure he was important but hey, the real job of raising the children was up to the mother wasn’t it? Fortunately, that view has been long been replaced with a far greater appreciation of the role dads play. And to celebrate the different ways they care for their children in comparison with mothers.
As a mother of two, I’m well versed in the process of “getting back into the swing of things” after having a baby. And I’ll be honest with you, it can definitely be exhausting at times. Trying to get back into your normal routine and restart everything with a newborn is a big process and can be very difficult, especially if your baby isn’t a good sleeper. It’s so important to make sure you’re looking after yourself, but it’s definitely hard to do this with an infant.